I’m 23 and I’ve never had a girlfriend. As a consequence, most of my family thinks I’m gay. I’ve had the “it’s okay if you are and we will still love you” speech more times than I care to count. Which is great. It means they love me.
But the thing is, this celibacy isn’t by choice. It just so happens that I’ve been rejected by every single person I’ve ever asked out. No exceptions. That’s how it was like in high school, then in university, and now in the real world. I’ve never known what it is like to be loved by someone other than my mom.
I don’t know what the problem is. I like to think I’m normal. It’s not like I go on a date and then start talking about a collection of cut fingernails I’ve been saving. No – I’m decent looking, handle myself well in social situations, I’m polite and have interests beyond the standard fare.
I’ve been told that my problem is that I’m too nice. That girls like guys with an edge. That girls only start looking for the nice ones later in life. I don’t know what to make of that. Whatever my problem is, for it is my problem, I’m beginning to give up. One can only be rejected so many times.
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2 responses to “Rejection”
I totally know how you feel. I’m in the same boat. I’m turning 27 in July and I’ve never had a girlfriend either. The only difference is, sometimes it’s by choice and sometimes it’s not. What I mean is, sometimes, I think it’s better to be alone than to force a smile. But, I digress.
There really isn’t that much I can say here because, like me, I’m sure you have heard it all before. All I will say is this, keep doing what you love doing. Having hobbies gets your mind of this “alone” feeling.
P.S. I like the new layout. Sorry, but I used the one you used to have for mine. 😉
Thanks. At least I know I’m not alone 🙂
PS. What is your site? All I see is the one showing the printout of a shell running a fake exploit.